Friday, October 17, 2008

the art of not looking busy

Josiah and I go to lunch. Every week. Friday. Noon. Costco. We meet in front of the Wilk. No questions asked.

Well, except that Josiah always texts me "Costco? Same place?"
Just to make sure.

Today I almost didn't go. I've had six billion things to do all day everyday, and no matter what I accomplish, it seems the list never gets smaller! but I did go. I wanted the break. I realized I needed it.

Josiah brought up something he'd learned in a leadership meeting that his stake president called "the art of not looking busy," about how, as a stake president, the man is busy. He's always got a lot of places to be, a lot of things to be doing, etc., but how in between those meetings, he takes time to not look busy. He stands out in the foyer so that he appears approachable and church members can feel like they can actually talk to him. We talked about how we need to make time to talk to people. We've got busy lives, but people don't feel like we love them or care about them if we can never talk to them except while we're doing something else. I liked the opportunity to evaluate how I'm doing with that. I was pleasantly surprised to remember the day before, having an hour before we were headed to Salt Lake and walking over to talk to my neighbor, Kate. We talked about school. She's 3. I loved forgetting everything I was worrying about to listen to how much she loves joyschool. I was maybe there for 5-10 minutes, and then I headed back into the house to finish stuff before I took off. But I loved it! And realizing today that's what I needed yesterday, and I need to take that kind of time regularly.

And as for Salt Lake...


































sigh...

5 comments:

J. Guest said...

I was about to ask, "How long has this been going on?" As in, how long has this blog existed without my knowledge. But now I have to change my question to, "How long has THIS been going on?" Referring of course to you and your dangerous liaison: the Jos-irable Doughman?

P.S. HOLLAA!!!

Alyssa said...

My blog? Well, I'm not a consistent blogger, so maybe a year, but I have maybe 20 entries to show for that year. Maybe.

And if you're concerned about my lunch habits... come next time?

Have you ever seen the movie "Just Friends"?

Alyssa said...

by 20 I mean 50. I had no idea...

Jami said...

Wait, wait. . . are you telling me you went to that concert?? SO jealous! I heart those bands! ALL of them! I will confess that Panic! at the Disco does sound somewhat like Fallout Boy, but I love them for who they are. Really. And as for Dashboard Confessional . . . love, love, love! How was it, anyway? My friend went, and he was like, "Eh, it was okay." I kind of wanted to kick him.

Alyssa said...

Oh Lu. It was fantastic.
And I feel like I introduced you to panic! at the disco...